| From the Where2sing.com forum: I think 'ego' is the wrong word to use here Mic Rophone. It implies (according to the dictionary) self centeredness and conciept. And those are not the kinds of folk who win friends and influence people. In my experience they are the types who others make fun of behind their backs. And you're right Mic Rophone, when egos get stepped on those with over inflated ones do get hurt. On the other hand, those with healthy securitys and confidence in themselves, with the modesty to match, can put on just as entertaining a show as the prima donna, and actually enjoy a bit of friendly sledging afterwards. The egomaniacs tend to take everything you say the wrong way unless you stroke them and make them purr. To most of us, its how you interact with others when you leave the stage that matters, not what you do behind the microphone. Most hosts greatest nightmare is having to pander to those fragile egos, its what takes the fun out of it for everybody. But then again..............if it doesnt get out of hand it does give you fodder for a good laugh!
Johnny B...........how do I reply to your novel! I dont really wanna rant on about this all over again. I was really just interested in what makes this industry so bitchy. As I said, Ive never seen anything like it before so I must have led a fairly sheltered life. If it goes on in all the arts then that explains alot, Ive never been involved in entertainment before so that explains my ignorance. But I am learning real quick. The problems I had with these people started long before I became a host but still involved karaoke, only to the extent that that is how I became so involved with them in the first place. My experiences have caused me to become more jaded than any other activity Ive ever taken on. Not towards karaoke mind, but towards human nature. Ive never come into contact with so many insincere, deceiptful, slippery characters in my life. It seems nobody says what they mean or means what they say, and being the kind of person I am, ( and maybe I am the way I am having grown up in NZ and soaked up so much sunshine it tends to have an affect on your disposition one way or another!!) I have on many occasions almost chucked it all away in despair feeling I had definitely entered into the wrong business. I have actually lost alot of the confidence I had in myself to begin with. I used to be able to say exactly what was on my mind, (with the required tact if I thought the person deserved it) and people always knew exactly where they stood with me. Now I find I have to be very careful about speaking my mind or just not say anything at all for fear of it being totally misconstrued with a huge sh*t fight as a result. I cant decieve or straight out lie, so most of the time saying nothing at all is the only option. Also, everything you say gets repeated, even if the person you said it to has convinced you you can trust them. Ive never come across this behaviour on such a grand scale before and Im finding it very frustrating, confusing, and disheartening. Not to mention the fact that it hurts when you think you've got a friend in someone only to discover too late that they are stabbing you in the back as well. I much prefer to be stabbed in the front myself.
But hey thats just me and I will get over it and conform eventually, I always do. Fortunately all the dramas Ive had in the past seem to be sorting themselves out and I have managed to mend a few fences. Rickety as they may be its a start. And they were at my own instigation I might add, no one came to me with an olive branch even though I felt some of them should. But someone had to do it and it seems I was the only one with enough humility, despite being accused of having none at all. Funny that.
Anyone out there who is having similar problems, for what its worth I give the same advice as I did Kittitude. Dont throw all your eggs in one basket, you're bound to smash them. Get out and do other things. Karaoke is a GREAT pursuit, but its not the ONLY one. Everything in moderation, sometimes getting up and belting out a song is NOT the stress reliever it appears to be. There are times when it can make it worse.
In saying that I expect you all to sing your asses off this weekend. Second thoughts...........we'd all look a bit strange with no asses!
Happy Trails
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